Four Seems Like A Lot
So, this happened this weekend.
And if you’re thinking that’s about beer, you’re wrong. Unless you’re thinking about how it means I don’t get any for the next 36 weeks. Yes. We’re expecting a baby. Yay!
Now bring o…
A Shout Out to Sleep Deprived Parents
To my fellow tired parents:
I feel you.
I know that “tired” doesn’t even begin to cover this… whatever it is. I know that one day you wake up and that entire pot of coffee no longer makes a dent in the exhaustion. I know we eventually give up expecting the caffeine to kill that exhaustion… leaving us with the simple hope it will keep our eyelids open long enough and our brains working well enough that we don’t run our car off the road and don’t burn the house down while we fix breakfast… even if it’s just toast.
I’m right there with you, and have been for the past six months. Or has it been only five? Seven? . . . Read All
Truth Is I’m Not Fine – Healing From Miscarriage
I can be fine all day long. I can smile and laugh with the kids. I can tickle them and sing hymns with them on request. I can read books and make dinner. I can put together Disney princess puzzles and giggle with the baby. I can focus on my work, putting together presentations, answering questions and writing reports. I can laugh with coworkers and attend meetings. I can talk with my husband and relax on the couch with him.
But then in the quiet moments – randomly and suddenly – I break down. And I can’t pinpoint why.
I just want to cry. And then yell and scream and curse at the world.
I feel like I’m falling apart, . . . Read All
Life After Loss
There were my boss’s words in the email. “Take all the time you need.” I was grateful for his understanding, yet my first thought was how he couldn’t really mean that. How much time do I need? And I assume I still have to work within the confines of the vacation/sick-time I have accrued. They don’t give you bereavement pay when you lose an unborn baby. Especially one who had no heartbeat yet. And for all I know may not have developed very far at all.
So here I am on my day off, the one day I gave myself to rest and relax before going back to the office, the reports and the news I would have to deliver . . . Read All
Thoughts On My Pregnancy Loss
Last week I was pregnant.
This week. I’m not.
Last week we were dreaming of the possibility of twins and new car seats and a new sibling and all the logistics behind adding another baby.
This week we are… well, not.
I asked my husband if it was bad that I was already drafting this blog post in my head. He said “No, it’s what you do.” And it is. Despite the incredible lack of motivation to write in this space for so many weeks — really, no desire to even keep this blog going really — I need it today.
My head is a mess. A jumble of confusing and conflicting thoughts and emotions. I don’t expect this post . . . Read All
I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead
I’m pregnant, sleep-deprived and foggy-brained. It’s amazing I manage to get out the door with matching shoes and semi-brushed hair, or that I was able to meet my two-month deadline for that huge report for work. Most days I feel like I’m just barely hanging on, though I do enjoy the occasional rock-star day when things go so smoothly with the kids and work that I don’t even mind the sheer exhaustion I’m experiencing.
People tell me to nap. I scoff. People insist I need to take care of myself and get sleep. I resist the urge to flip them the bird.
It’s not their fault I’m grumpy. I know they’re just trying to be helpful, but still. In these . . . Read All
#Hype4Baby4 is Over…
… or is it just beginning?
I would write more, but it’s late. I’m tired. And this pregnancy is starting quickly with ab pain and nausea hitting at 4 weeks!
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Sisters of Katie Luther — For Tired Mothers of Small Children
Another post on our sister site, KatieLutherSisters.org:
When my first baby was new and small and I was deep in sleep deprivation there was a piece of advice that made me cringe every time I heard it. I could almost feel it coming based on the sweet … Continue reading →
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3 Truths About Parenting
Last week I had a brief exchange with some moms and moms-to-be on twitter about how moms shouldn’t keep playing up the challenges and struggles of parenting, because it’s not actually that hard and all this accomplishes is making moms-to-be freak out all the more. While I certainly agreed with these ladies on a lot of points, it didn’t quite dive into the whole picture that is this parenthood thing. I’m by no means a parenting expert as my kids are all five and under, but I’m no newbie either and I like to think these three goobers have taught me a thing or two.
So…. here are my truths about parenting:
1. Parenting is Easy
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Parents, Stop Apologizing For Your Babies
As if Pinterest wasn’t already ruining the self-esteems of millions of moms world wide with our inability to re-create the perfectly coordinated half-birthday party for our 6 month old, complete with cutesy names for all the snacks (which the baby can’t eat anyway) and custom mason jars… oh, wait, milk bottles are the new mason jars now, right? No?
Crap. Whatever. That’s not my point anyway.
Well, now in addition to all the creative and custom-made goodie bags we are expected to make for birthday parties, valentine’s day parties, halloween, and who knows what else — someone has raised the bar by creating the first-flight-for-baby-goodie-bag for all the fellow passengers that might, heaven-forbid, have to hear a baby cry.
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Facing My Postpartum Reality
Days like these I wonder if I’m just in denial.
My baby is over 3 months old. The blues aren’t supposed to happen now. They are supposed to last for a few weeks immediately following birth, leave and stay gone. I haven’t had this with the other kids, so this surprises and confuses me. It catches me off guard, and it frustrates me. This isn’t like the blues I know and loathe. So what is this?
Maybe I’m pregnant again. Nope. Negative.
Maybe I just need to put on a happy face. Buck up. Just stop. Because this isn’t me. This doesn’t happen to me. Depression may run in my family, but I’m the one who didn’t get that gene. . . . Read All
Luther on changing a baby’s diaper (rerun)
[Mollie Hemingway’s quotation from Luther’s “The Estate of Marriage” (1522) reminded me that I blogged on that sermon in 2007, several platforms ago. So I thought I would rerun it.] In working on an article about vocation, I was looking for the source of Luther’s famous saying about the holiness of changing diapers. I found [Read More…]
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Babies With Genetic Material from Three People?
Scientists hope new methods will help overcome mitochondrial disease.Within two years or so, it may be possible and legal in the United Kingdom to create babies with genetic material from three people. New techniques are being considered as a way to av…
A baby’s sense of morality
Research is showing that babies as young as six months have a moral sense. Some ingenious experiments with toys show babies favoring “good guys” over “bad guys.” And they really like to see “bad guys” punished. This suggests that morality is not just learned from the culture but that it has elements that are innate–that [Read More…]
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